Finding The Real Me: How Pleasure Helped Me Find My Power
Most people don’t know this about me, but I was raised in a deeply conservative family. Conversations around education, money, and career success were commonplace. But talk of purpose, passion, or pleasure? That was largely off-limits. Here were the unspoken rules, or rather, the “facts” that shaped how I moved through the world: Prioritize stability […]
How to Audit Your Friendships & Why It Matters
Somewhere between “Let’s get drinks soon!” and “Sorry for not replying, it’s been a wild month,” your friendships can start to feel… off. Maybe you’re not sure why that friend you used to talk to every day now makes you feel drained after five minutes. Or why certain connections feel stuck on repeat, while others […]
Dating Is Exhausting—Here’s How to Make It Feel Less Hopeless
In a world obsessed with instant gratification, it should not be a surprise dating feels like a dumpster fire half the time. I hear it constantly: There are no good men. No good women either. No one wants something real. Everyone just wants to text for day, ghost tomorrow, and never meet up. And what’s […]
How to Spot…and Stop Manipulation Before It Undoes You
Let’s get one thing straight: Manipulation isn’t always obvious. It doesn’t always show up in the form of someone yelling, making threats, or demanding your loyalty. Sometimes, it’s quiet. Subtle. Even flattering. Sometimes, it wears the mask of love or care. And that’s exactly what makes it so dangerous. We tend to think of manipulation […]
5 Real Ways to Reignite Desire in Long-Term Relationships
Remember those Cosmo articles that promised “10 Things That Will Drive Him Wild”? I used to devour those like they held the sacred blueprint to seduction—only to finish them feeling mildly entertained, completely confused, and no closer to understanding real intimacy, desire, or pleasure. As someone who is obsessed with creating healthy relationships, I quickly […]
What Is An Emotional Affair? How to Recognize, Recover, & Rebuild Trust
Let’s be honest—when we hear “affair,” most of us immediately think of sex. Genitalia gets all the attention, but the real conversation we need to be having is about fidelity—and what that actually means for your relationship. Let’s be honest—when we hear “affair,” most of us immediately think of sex. Our genitals get all the […]
How to Make Friends After 30 (Without Losing Your Mind or Dignity)
Making friends after 30 can feel like trying to climb Mount Everest… in flip-flops. When we’re younger, friendship just kind of happens. We’re surrounded by potential pals in classrooms, clubs, and campus events. But once adulting kicks in, complete with deadlines, commutes, and that never-ending laundry pile, building meaningful friendships can feel impossible. Here’s the […]
Adult Friendships: How To Find The Right Connection For You
Friendships as a kid felt easy—almost automatic. Maybe it was a parent nudging us to play with the child next to us or the built-in social circles of school and community activities. We never really thought about how friendships formed; they just did. But as we grow older, things change. Life doesn’t naturally throw people […]
Are You Afraid Of Change? How To Change Without Fear
Fear surrounding change has existed for a long time. For some, it’s a slight inconvenience on an otherwise simple path to creating the life you want. However, for others, it may feel like standing on a receding ledge crumbling under your weight with only a streaming river of molten lava to catch you should you fall. […]
Having Kids Ruined My Sex Life: How To Reignite Intimacy & Pleasure
You loved your sex life. It was a space to de-stress, connect, and feel like yourself again. And then—came the kids. Deep down, you’re afraid that having children ruined your sex life. Believe it or not, you’re not alone. And honestly? You’re not wrong. Having kids changes everything—including intimacy. But so do career stress, aging, […]
