Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of imagination, and our infinite imagination with what is hidden and mysterious.
Who knew there was so much eloquence in such a taboo topic?
YOU DID.
Although you’ve been told the world has progressed and “come a long way,” you still find it near impossible to have a vulnerable and protected space to explore all that surrounds intimacy, pleasure, kink, and eroticism. When you look online for sex therapy, you find endless articles touting heterosexist, monogamous, and shaming ideas surrounding sex and sexuality.
If you are a couple and you’ve been to couples therapy – did your therapist show as much interest in your sex life as other parts of your relationship?
How has individual therapy welcomed exploration as it relates to your erotic identity?
Can you confidently acknowledge and communicate your sexual needs and boundaries?
Can you unabashedly acknowledge the purpose of eroticism, intimacy, and desire for you and your relationships?
Do these questions give you pause and make you feel like you are back in elementary school hearing “penis” and “vagina” again for the first time?
Imagine if you could feel as comfortable with sex as you do with health, finances, or spirituality. Imagine if you could feel fully integrated as a human being that has complete agency and liberation over all the aspects of your identity. This isn’t about pushing sexual comfort, this is about identifying and owning that sexual comfort in a way that allows you to own your sexuality and sexual desires. Sexual exploration and growth is about fully stepping into yourself.
Let's Explore
Many therapists specialize in sexual dysfunction and addiction but squirm at the mention of BDSM and anal. You often find you can fit one of very few boxes, which often catapults you from unhealthy obsession with sex to unhealthy unavoidance of it.
Can casual sex be empowering?
Can asexuality also encompass desire and pleasure?
Can infidelity be warranted?
Honestly, I can’t give you a blanket response to any of these questions. The truth is, there are so many considerations that could determine a yes or no response to each. Your erotic identity is just as essential to your ability to lead a thriving life as are the other parts of your identity. The key is having the courage to ask these questions, and seek answers.
Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something we do.
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